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Thursday, November 21 2024

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“Find out who you are and be that person.

That’s what your soul was put on this earth to be.

Find the truth, live that truth, and everything else will come.”

Ellen DeGeneres

Discovering our purpose and becoming our real selves is such an important topic that researchers everywhere have investigated its significance to our lives.  Aristotle, the ancient Greek philosopher, scientist, and polymath, one of the greatest intellectual figures of Western history said, “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” We cannot help but recognize the importance of knowing ourselves, knowing who we really are, and discovering our authentic selves.

As I listened to Pastor Exavier Duke teach on this topic, he said “The person you are is based on the purpose of you being here.” This is such a profound statement, for it reveals how important discovering our purpose is. Discovering our purpose is therefore one of the most important elements of a happy and fulfilling life that reveals the real you. The heart of discovering our purpose is about helping us live an authentic life for in so doing we are figuring out what unique contribution we can bring to our world.

In his book The Path of Purpose, Professor William Damon, concluded in his long-raging study, that “The most pervasive problem of the day is a sense of emptiness that has ensnared many young people in long periods of drift during a time in their lives when they should be defining their aspiration and making progress toward their fulfillment.” He describes a majority of our youth as “adrift…they are motivated but directionless.” This has become equivalent to a pandemic because it transcends into adulthood or until later in their lives where much time is lost to them. He has found that only one in five young people expressed a clear vision of where they wanted to go, what they wanted to accomplish in life, and why.

The absence of a purpose-driven life has become such a high priority in our society that many researchers and scholars have written books, lectures, and seminars about it. The focus is geared toward motivating our young adults who are plagued with dominant moods of apathy and anxiety, disengagement, or even cynicism to become naturally hopeful with their lives. They are filled with ambitions but no clear way of achieving them. If we find our purpose, we find ourselves, and having found ourselves, we are able to fulfill our lives which ultimately brings us happiness. A recent study by J.L. Buchanan discovered that depression is the most common health problem for college students and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) has reported that levels of suicide for youth aged 15-34 years old. This is how important it is for us as God’s creation to discover our purpose and find our true selves from an early age..

When we find our purpose, we find ourselves and our joy. Finding our purpose is not only spiritually beneficial to the human being, but it is also physically, mentally, and emotionally so because it creates a complete balance in the individual. God is a God of purpose, and He has created us with purpose so that having found it we become a balanced happy people. When youth identify their purpose, they make better life choices and avoid many of life’s challenges such as depression, crushing anxiety, substance abuse, and suicide.

Those who have found their purpose in life whether it is working for racial justice, teaching children with special needs, raising awareness of certain incurable diseases, or volunteering in disaster regions in devastating crisis, have found ways to blend their passion, talents, and care for the world in a way that infuses their lives with meaning. Finding your purpose is tied to better health, longevity, and economic success. It really feels good to have a sense of purpose, knowing that you are using your skills to help others in a way that matters to you because God gave you purpose not only for yourself but to serve others.

He told the prophet Jeremiah, that he was created to be a prophet to the nations not to himself, Peter to be fishers of men not to himself, and the apostle Paul to use his acumen of delivery to stand before kings and the Gentiles, which ended up with him giving of himself to nations and eventually the world at large. It is never about us and our importance but of service. Our purpose is for service.

How to Find Your Purpose In Life

Hardship experienced in racism can prompt one to become a civil rights advocate, domestic violence to be an advocate for domestic violence or severe illness, to pursue medicine. But what do you do when your purpose is not easily obvious to you? Thankfully Kendall Bronk in her research in Greater Good’s Purpose Challenge, developed Seven Ways to Find Your Purpose in Life. She posits:

  1. Identify the Things You Care About: High school seniors were asked to think about the world around them—their homes, communities, and the world at large—and visualize what they would do if they had the ability to change anything they wanted to change (and why). Afterward, they could use that reflection to consider more concrete steps they might take to contribute toward moving the world a little closer to that ideal. Seniors were asked - What are you good at? What have you done that gave you a skill that can be used for a cause? And What do you care about in your community?

By reflecting on these questions, the older adults can brainstorm ideas for repurposing skills and pursuing interests developed over a lifetime toward helping the world.

  1. Reflect on What Matters Most: Sometimes it can be hard to single out one or two things that matter most to you because your circle of care and concern is far-ranging. Understanding what you value most may help you narrow down your purpose in life to something manageable that also truly resonates with you.

  1. Recognize Your Strengths and Talents: We all have strengths and skills that we’ve developed over our lifetimes, which help make up our unique personalities. If in doubt it may be helpful to ask those who know us well and if their feedback confirms what we already know you can run with it, otherwise discard it.

  1. Try Volunteering: Finding purpose involves more than just self-reflection. According to Bronk, it’s also about trying out new things and seeing how those activities enable you to use your skills to make a meaningful difference in the world. Volunteering in a community organization focused on something of interest to you could provide you with some experience and do good at the same time.

  1. Imagine Your Best Possible Self: Imagine yourself at 40 years of age if everything had gone as well as it could have in your life. Then, answer questions, like:
  • What are you doing?
  • What is important to you?
  • What do you really care about, and why?

The why part is particularly important because purposes usually emerge from our reasons for caring.

  1. Cultivate Positive Emotions Like Gratitude and Awe: To find purpose, it helps to foster positive emotions, like awe and gratitude. That’s because each of these emotions is tied to well-being, caring about others, and finding meaning in life, which all help us focus on how we can contribute to the world.

  1. Look To the People You Admire: Sometimes the people we admire most in life give us a clue to how we might want to contribute to a better world ourselves. Reading about the work of civil rights leaders or climate activists can give us a moral uplift that can serve as motivation for working toward the greater good.

It is however important to note that in finding our purpose in life, we don’t need fame but rather to look to our inner compass and start taking small steps in the direction that means the most to us. Every so often I am reminded of John 1: 9 which tells us clearly that the True Light, which is Jesus Christ lights every man that comes into the world. Each of us has that inner Light that will guide and lead us to our purpose if we seek it and pursue it.

References:

  1. https://www.discoveringmypurpose.org/support-us/why-purpose
  2. https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/seven_ways_to_find_your_purpose_in_life

Thursday, November 21 2024

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“Find out who you are and do it on purpose.”

—Dolly Parton

Having a fulfilled life entails taking the time to discover your purpose in being here on earth. In the book of Proverbs 16:4, we are told “The Lord has made everything for his own purposes, even the wicked for the day of disaster” (NLT). God has created us with a purpose in mind. We understand that God is intentional and was intentional when He created us for His purpose. It therefore behooves us to find out what that purpose is. We need to discover why we are here so that we may find ourselves useful in the world. The responsibility is ours to know our purpose for being alive, and I say alive because it is but for the grace of God that we who are alive are not consumed already.

But it all starts with knowing why God created us. He says in Isaiah 43:21, “This people have I formed for myself: they shall shew forth my praise” (KJV). We must each ask ourselves ‘What can I do to show forth the praise of God?’ ‘How can my life bring pleasure to God our Creator?’ Very often this will require us taking a step back and looking at ourselves, examining what our passions are, what motivates us excessively, and what fills our minds and spirits that even if we want to set it aside we can’t help but return to it. What is it that gives us that joy to get up in the mornings and run to it?

For some discovering their purpose may come naturally from a very early age. This is how we have twenty-five-year-old farmers, doctors, researchers, teachers, counselors, etc. Then there are cases where you just stumble into something that clutches your heart and you find yourself developing a love and affinity for it. The next thing you know, that is what you want to do. As you talk to God in your times of quiet times, He will make it very real to you with prompting to pursue it. However you discover your purpose in life, it is important that you pursue it to make your life purposeful and meaningful.

God has designed us to be fruitful and have dominion not only for ourselves but for our world. But then the question becomes, ‘How do world affairs affect my life? What impact would changes in world dynamics have on my purpose?’ These and many more questions are valid, but we must be a people who know their God because as Daniel 11:32b tells us we will be strong and do exploits. This means that irrespective of the economic circumstances or the political landscape, with the guidance and wisdom of God we will do exploits in the thing He has impregnated us to do.

We find a very good point of reference in the book of Jeremiah. The children in Judea and Jerusalem had been disobedient and God had caused them to be taken into captivity into Babylon under the governance of King Nebuchadnezzar who was not only ruthless but evil. Although they were no longer in their native land, the land that God had promised them for an inheritance, God saw their dismay and concern for their lives and the interruption this exodus from their norm would bring about. So God dictated a letter to the prophet Jeremiah which he sent to King Nebuchadnezzar saying,

 “Thus says the Lord of hosts, the God of Israel, to all who were carried away captive, whom I have caused to be carried away from Jerusalem to Babylon: Build houses and dwell in them; plant gardens and eat their fruit. Take wives and beget sons and daughters and take wives for your sons and give your daughters to husbands, so that they may bear sons and daughters, that you may be increased there, and not diminished. And see the peace of the city where I have caused you to be carried away captive, and pray to the Lord for it; for in its peace you will have peace” (Jeremiah 29:4-7).

            Here God is telling His people that although the circumstances were not what they were accustomed to in a strange land, they were to focus on being fruitful and productive in their lives. They were not to allow the external climate to detach them from their purpose as the people of God. Yes, they were in judgment, and yes, they were not in the environment they knew and were accustomed to, but God was promising to make their purpose come to fruition irrespective of where they were, and how uncomfortable they were. God was telling them to pursue and live their lives so that they are not diminished. Isn’t God good, to be both love and justice at the same time?

            God was letting them know that he judged them to humble them, but he still loved them and would prosper and be with them in their captivity. God who created everything for His purpose is King of Kings and Lord of Lords. He is King over governments and kingdoms and as we remain faithful and obedient to Him, we can be assured that He will not abandon us under any circumstances. We must never abandon our purpose but rather hold on to the peace of God no matter what.

            It is this peace that we have with God that will give us the confidence to remain steadfast in our purpose whether our job changes, our location changes, or our government changes. God never changes, and neither does our purpose. This should strengthen our resolve in today’s world where so many are disillusioned by our political and economic conditions. We must be encouraged that although there are changes that may be unpleasant to us, our God has not changed. He is still God, King of all kings, President of all presidents, and Lord of all lords, and will be faithful to us in all aspects of our lives. We must discover our purpose in life that will bring praise to Him for in doing so we not only please God, but we bring joy and fulfilment to ourselves. Discovering our purpose leads to a full and peaceful life within.

HAPPY VETERAN'S DAY PASTOR DUKES
Monday, November 11 2024

Thursday, November 07 2024

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          When we think of being pregnant, we think of being entrusted with the birth of a child, an idea, a gift, hope, and or a promise. It can be tangible or intangible and today let’s talk about an intangible pregnancy that can only be imparted by the Holy Spirit in us. A pregnancy that must be pursued into fruition only if we acknowledge it. It’s a pregnancy with a divine purpose that requires being searched out and developed for the glory of God.

King David tells us in the book of Proverbs 16:4, “The Lord hath made all things for Himself,…”  In other words, all things that we can or cannot touch were made by God. The apostle John reiterated David’s declaration when he said in St. John 1:3, “All things were made by Him (Jesus), and without Him was not anything made that was made.” We must therefore look beyond the tangible that we can literally touch and wait for, in the natural birthing of a baby from our womb.

          There are the pregnancies of ideas, skills, and dreams that have been planted in us, and like the natural baby, they come with a purpose. We must first believe that we were created for a purpose and with a purpose in the mind of God. What did God Himself say, “For I know the thoughts I think towards you, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you an expected end” (Jeremiah 29:11 KJV). The Apostle Paul explains it clearly when he says, our own completeness is only realized in Christ, who is the authority over all authorities, and the supreme power over all powers (Phillips). We come completely packaged by God for a purpose. We are not empty and we are not diminished, we are complete in God. This is why we do not compare ourselves with others because we all come complete in God for our assigned purpose and not someone else’s.

          Each and every one of us has been created with a purpose and for a purpose and until it is realized and birthed through us we become tormented and restless from within. As we allow God to develop our purpose we must look for expression of that purpose. We must realize it, discover it and seek to develop it for delivery. Our purpose is never chosen or selected by us for us, it is bestowed upon us by the Holy Spirit and as God positions or plants us in His garden, there is where we must express it.

          After a while, it becomes difficult to not do what we were called to do. For our own inner peace we must pursue the purpose we have been impregnated with whether we like it, approve of it or not. A vivid example is seen in the testimony of the Prophet Jeremiah whom God had told that even before he was conceived in his mother’s womb he was ordained to be a prophet to the nations (Jeremiah 1:5). This purpose for Jeremiah being born did not always sit well with him because it brought conflict and tension with the people to whom he must speak on behalf of God.

          God did not ask Jeremiah if he would like to be a prophet if he would like to speak to nations on His behalf, it was bestowed upon him, it was assigned to him and it was his responsibility to understand what it entailed and run with it. And he did, but we find as in many instances, there is a particular situation where he was not enjoying his assignment. This assignment was causing him much pain and he decided to talk to God about it. God had sent him to speak to the kings of Judah and citizens of Jerusalem because of their wickedness, how they had “turned the valley into a place of shame and wickedness (Jeremiah 19:4a). Jeremiah was told to tell them that God said, He “will bring terrible evil upon the place, so terrible that the ears of those who hear it will prickle (19:3).

          Who wants to deliver such a message, however justifiable it is? But Jeremiah had no choice in the matter, this was what he was impregnated with, to speak to the nations on God’s behalf, being the mouthpiece for God and not to be afraid of their faces (Jeremiah 1:8). So here he must execute his assignment against his inner peace because this is what he is called to do and he did. But he didn’t hesitate to let God know how painful it was for him, for after he delivered God’s no-nonsense message to the people, and was imprisoned for it, he turned to the Lord and said,

“O Lord, you deceived me when you promised me your help. I have to give them your messages because you are stronger than I am (meaning I do not have the power to stand against you and say no) but now I am the laughingstock of the city, mocked by all. You have never once let me speak a word of kindness to them, always it is disaster and horror and destruction. No wonder they scoff and mock and make my name a household joke” (Jeremiah 20:6-8 TLB).

Yes, our assignment can be painful, it can be hard and cause us much discomfort and unease, but we have to stick with it because to vacate it brings inner turmoil that far outweighs the discomfort of doing what we are called to do. Jeremiah further says,

“I can’t quit! For if I say I’ll never again mention the Lord – never more speak in his name, then his word in my heart is like fire that burns in my bones, and I can’t hold it in any longer” (Jeremiah 20:9 TLB).

This is what being pregnant is all about. Pregnant on assignment. Jeremiah couldn’t quit because of the inner turmoil or unrest it brought to his inner peace. Earlier when God had informed him of his calling, he reported what God had said to him,

“The Lord said unto me, say not, I am a child: for thou shalt go to all that I shall send thee, and whatsoever I command thee thou shalt speak. Be not afraid of their faces: for I am with thee to deliver thee” (Jeremiah 1:7-8 KJV).

          This brings me to the realization that when we have been impregnated with purpose by God, we do not have the choice of saying no. It is for us to discover what is our purpose, how we must execute it even if and when we do not have the fanfare of the world or we do not feel good about it. What we do not have the privilege of, is to just sit idly by doing nothing. As God’s creation, God’s people, we must take the necessary responsibility to enquire of God what our purpose is by staying connected to Him and then actually begin to do that thing however small or insignificant it may seem.

            God must be able to trust us with the little things before He will entrust us with more and much more. It is so important for us to take the responsibility to discover our purpose and having discovered it, develop in it to the excellence God seeks. Very often it is not even about us but God will choose and assign us to others or for the benefit of others. God said of the Apostle Paul at the time of his conversion, “… he is a chosen vessel unto me, to bear my name before the Gentiles and kings, and the children of Israel: for I will shew him how great things he must suffer for my name’s sake” (Acts 9:15-16).

          We all know what things Paul suffered but not once did he vacate his offices. He endured rejection, imprisonment, beatings, and threats to his life, and he kept doing the will of the Father until at the end he was able to boldly declare, “I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith: henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day: and not to me only, but unto all them also that love his appearing” (2 Timothy 4: 7-8 KJV). He says the crown of righteousness to be received in our faithfulness is not only for him but for everyone who would be faithful to their assignment as he was at the coming of the Lord.

            Living in our purpose is a sacrifice of ourselves to and for others. Remember we are created for a purpose and with a purpose and it behooves us to discover it and do it to the honor and glory of God. For as Paul indicated there will be a day of reckoning when we would either be crowned or not for what we have done or have not done with the purpose of God. This is the time to get moving and do something.

Blessings upon Blessings.

Friday, November 01 2024

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Let’s talk about being pregnant, and not pregnant in the flesh which pertains to all females, but rather to the pregnancy with purpose through the Spirit of God. In Genesis 1:26 we read where God said: “Let us make human beings in our image, make them reflecting our nature; So they can be responsible for the fish in the sea, the birds in the air, the cattle, And, yes, Earth itself,  and every animal that moves on the face of Earth” (MSG). Here we see God wasted no time in assigning responsibilities to both male and female after their creation. Clearly, it was never God’s intention that mankind sit idly by doing absolutely nothing of importance or significance. In the King James Version, God used the word “dominion,” which implies we were to take leading positions in whatever our assignment.

Again in Jeremiah 29:11, God says, “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you an expected end (Jeremiah 29:11). Then King David testified of God’s thoughts, when he said, “O Lord, how great are thy works! And thy thoughts are very deep (Psalms 92:5). Therefore, when God said we were to have dominion over every living, creeping, crawling, flying, and swimming thing on and in the earth, He was having deep and far-reaching thoughts in mind for us and built us up to do so. We can do all that God has put in our hearts and minds to do. It may require hard work, research, or much study, but we can and must do what God has called us or impregnated us to do in this lifetime.

Very often as a people, we fall into the trap of thinking or actually believing we are an authority unto ourselves or we are our own bosses, when in fact the Proverbs tells us, “The Lord hath made all things for himself…” (Proverbs 16:4). It will be good for us to note that God made us all for himself which speaks of accountability. We are placed here to do something(s) and it is each and everyone’s responsibility to find out what we were created to do. We all have an assignment(s)even before we were born, and irrespective of whether or not our birth was planned, we were not a surprise to God. Because God, who is Omniscient, knew us before we were even conceived in our mothers’ wombs. Do you recall what He said to Jeremiah?

Jeremiah was a prophet at a time when much was going on, to have someone question their purpose for even being alive.  This was during the time of Zedekiah when the Jews from Jerusalem were being carried into captivity and I can just imagine this prophet asking himself, ‘What do I say to our people? Why is this happening to us or me? What is my purpose for being here at a time like this? What is my purpose as a prophet in this captive situation? But then God saw his thoughts and the questions and struggles of his mind. Jeremiah was probably questioning his ability to do anything, his usefulness or relevance. God understood his distress and stepped in and answered him. God has a way of knowing our thoughts even before we utter them vocally. Jeremiah said, the word of the Lord came to me saying, “Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out to the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations” (Jeremiah 1:5).

I can visualize Jeremiah’s perplexity and joy at knowing that God had organized his life from its inception. God had an assignment for him long before his embryo came along. Look at Adam and Eve, the scriptures says that the Lord had not caused it to rain upon the earth because there was no man to till the ground. The work was already there but man was not yet there to take care of it. But then God created Adam and Eve and assigned them to it. God already had work for each and every one of us whom He has created. It is for each of us to find out what it is and we do that by going to Him and asking for revelation. Some of us will readily discover our purpose for being here on earth by our passions. More often than not our passion is our destiny.

When I think of the word “Pregnant,” it speaks of “rich in significance or implication; having possibilities of development or consequence; involving important issues; abounding in resourcefulness; inventive; fertile, rich, great importance, potential; momentous (Merriam-webster.com), and the list can go on and on. It speaks of a mind pregnant with ideas. How often have you found your mind pregnant with ideas? Where are those ideas? Have you discarded them? Have you written them down but abandoned them into oblivion?

HOW DO WE DISCOVER OUR PURPOSE?

  • We must reconnect with our manufacturer, God, who created us. Since He created us with a purpose in mind, it is only natural that we go to Him and enquire of Him. We must develop a relationship with God where He shares His secrets with us. Psalm 25:14 tells us, “The secret of the Lord is with them that fear Him, and He will shew them His covenant.”
  • We must get involved and do something. Whether it's in the church, the marketplace, at home, or in our community, wherever you find yourself, the Holy Spirit will show you what to do. Luke 12:48b tells us “For unto whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required: and to whom men have committed much, of him they will ask the more. The more you become exposed, you will develop a love and passion to take something or some aspect of what you are learning or have learned to create and build on. We have to get involved, we must become engaged in something out of which passions evolve. As we begin to do something and become engaged, we will develop a love for it until it becomes a part of us.

Let us remember that in His creative work, God has a master plan for all mankind to give their contribution to the world naturally and spiritually. The Apostle Paul tells us that “we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them” (Ephesians 2:10). What good works are you walking in today? Where are you demonstrating His workmanship? Where are you involved? Wherever you find yourself at this point in your life, there is something you can do to add your contribution. Believe it, you are pregnant with purpose not only for yourself but for others. And like Jeremiah and so many of us, the situation may never be perfect for you to jump right in, but let God build your confidence in assuring you of what you are destined to do and He will strengthen you in the call and for the call.

Let us get moving, there is so much work to be done everywhere you turn, or as Jesus declared, “The harvest truly is plenteous, but the laborers are few” (Matthew 9:37).

Blessings!

Saturday, October 26 2024

I don’t know where you are or how you are as you are reading this blog, but I am trusting that God has brought you to this write-up to bless you in so many ways. We had gathered for worship last Sunday and I sat with a very big heart as my pastor expounded on one of my very favorite passages of scripture. It was taken from 1 Chronicle 1:9-10, where the young man by the name of Jabez was not in a good place at this particular time, and was definitely not feeling good about himself. You see his mother brought him forth out of pain and named him Jabez which meant ‘Sorrow, regret, disappointment, and pain” in his Hebrew language.

How many of us have felt the pain of a name given to us by our parents for whatever reason? If I may make my own confession, I named my second son Tyson after seeing the name Tyson in a magazine when I was pregnant. I often wondered why as a Christian and God-loving mother, I didn’t turn to the bible for a name, possibly Joseph or Paul like his dad, but I named him Tyson. Unfortunately for him, by the time he was seven years old and ready to go off to primary school, Mike Tyson the boxer became very famous in my country.

In the second week of his new school, I went to pick him up and he was sitting in the principal’s office. In her office, she explained to me that he was in a big fight that day with another boy and she pointed to the other boy sitting across the room scowling. As I looked at him I was shocked to see how huge he was. He was taller and bigger than my small framed baby. I looked at the principal and asked what caused the fight and before she could answer, Tyson angrily explained that they were in the grounds playing when the boy (I have forgotten his name) came up to him and said, “so you are Tyson, well I am Bone Crusher” and I’m going to beat you up. I don’t know if you remember the boxer “Bonecrusher,” but he was the boxer who held the WBA heavyweight title from 1986-1987, then came Mike Tyson and defeated him and took away his title. This little boy who was burly as I guess his favorite boxer was, saw my Tyson as a way of getting back at the real Tyson for beating up his idol. Tyson could not get away from that kid and was engaged in a fight every day for the remainder of that week and the next until I had to eventually remove him from that school since the teachers had no control of the situation.

As a grown young man, he informed me that he had to fight his way throughout his school years until high school. That is how a wrong name can negatively impact an individual. For some reason, he kept it from me and his dad all those years, until in New York his dad was called to the school at least once every week. I had caused him so much trauma in his school life.

There is no record of what Jabez’s childhood and teenage years looked like, or what he may have endured, but at this point in Jabez’s life, he seemed to be burdened with the significance of his name of sorrow, regret, disappointment, and pain that caused him to cry out to God for help. Under the influence of his name, he didn’t feel blessed even though the bible states that he was more honorable than his brethren. His honorable status did not alleviate the pain of his life, so he cried out to God that God would bless him and enlarge his territory, his coast, and lay his hands on him. He wanted God to lay his holy hand on him and lift the burden of sorrow, pain, and suffering from him. He asked, “And that thine hand might be with me, and that thou wouldest keep me from evil, that it may not grieve me” (vs. 10b).

Jabez understood what the power of the hand of God upon him would do for him. He understood that it would break the yoke of sorrow, lack, and pain from his life and remove all the evil that came with that name. He was tired of the grief in his life that came with his name and he wanted no more of it and the verse ended with, “And God granted him that which he requested.”

Today what is it that you would like God to put his hand on your life and remove? God can do for you what he did for Jabez. In particular, God wants to enlarge your territory, not only to reverse the weight of a name, sadness, sorrow, pain, and lack in your life but also to enlarge you in very critical areas of your life to make you and me better individuals. God wants to enlarge us in the areas of:

  1. Our love walk – A love that is not superficial but where we have the capacity to love our enemies. A love that is not based on how we feel, that has no stipulations. We must understand that because God himself is love and gave love, He looks at love with honor and requires us to love our neighbors as we love ourselves, and we do know how to love ourselves, we do know how we would like to be treated and appreciated. Yes, God has placed His love in us and He looks at love with honor. The Apostle Paul admonishes us to, “Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good. Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honor preferring one another” (Romans 12:9-10).
  2. Our forgiveness walk – We often struggle in this area of our lives when someone hurts us, but God wants to enlarge our capacity to forgive each other and live in love and a free spirit with each other. When the disciple asked Jesus how often he must forgive his brother, Jesus said seventy times seven. This number of four hundred and ninety times is so large that I am very sure you have not been able to encounter anyone who has been able to hurt you that much in a lifetime, much more in a day. In other words, we must walk in a forgiving mode of life daily.
  3. Our patience walk – How is your patience walk today? So many of us don’t have the patience to wait on God, or anyone for that matter. We rush to take over and be in control and very often make things worse, but the Psalmist sets a great example for us when he cried out to God, “Hear me when I call, O God of my righteousness: Thou hast enlarged me when I was in distress, have mercy upon me, and hear my prayer” (Psalm 4:1). King David knew that only God could give him an answer that will work on his situation. It was in his distress that he called upon God and so must we.

Today God wants to enlarge the areas of our lives where we fall short. He wants to enlarge our capacity in those areas where we are weak so that we can become strong in his strength and wisdom. My prayer is that we all call on him in our distress, failings, or weaknesses in full surrender to His will and purpose.

Blessings

Saturday, October 19 2024

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The Weight Of A Woman

Looking back at the creation of God in all of His wisdom, He has made only two species of human beings and that is the man and the woman. God created the woman because He didn’t want the man to be alone. God saw the incompleteness of the man and therefore created her with a purpose. Her creation was intentional. God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him (Genesis 2:18 KJV). So she is his help, suitable, complementary, sufficient, his other half, etc. for him.

As a help to her husband, she becomes a wife, mother, confidant, cook, housekeeper,  and if she goes out to work, financial supporter, and the list goes on. When we speak of the word “weight,” we are reminded of responsibility, importance, influence, and strength. The woman carries the weight of everyone in her life. Helping is an innate quality of the woman. The numerous hats she wears go unnoticed because she wears them effortlessly, willingly, and joyfully.

However, time has shown that a woman can be wise and/or foolish. The book of Proverbs tells us, “Every wise woman buildeth her house: But the foolish plucketh it down with her hands (Proverbs 14:1). So this woman whose purpose is to help, to help build, help create, help support, and help uphold, can actually do so but on the other hand tear it all down. This woman, among all things, is both passionate and compulsive and this is where the wisdom and folly of her comes into play. Depending on her compulsion she can bring out the king in her husband and sons, the queen in her daughters, and the beautiful strength in herself. On the other hand, that same woman can cause a man to not speak or lift his head in his own house, and her sons and daughters to desire to be elsewhere.

A woman whether she bore a child or not carries a lot of weight and according to the scriptures she builds her house. Even though the man may have the blueprint and may have built the foundation, of what the house should look like, how his wife and kids may look, it is the woman who sets the atmosphere and tone for the home and even the church. She carries the brick for whatever the man is building. The brick is the feeding, the clothing, the rearing of the children, bringing things together one after the other, so that the man’s vision is seen clearly. She carries on without complaining exhibiting her power, her capacity or ability to direct or influence the behaviors of others or the course of events to bring it all to fruition.

The wise woman is able to effortlessly build because she is building on the Word of God, where comes her strength. She gives the godly design of her out of the Word of God, to come to light and be manifested in and through her. Her beauty is reflected in her home, church, community, marketplace, and what and wherever she touches.

The woman becomes foolish when she steps out of character and wields weapons of destruction through her words, attitudes, and behavior as a whole. But God wants us to be wise even in the face of adverse conditions and experiences. God wants us to build and not tear down; to lift up and not to trample under. That’s the weight of a woman, to just be there with the bricks to see things through and flourish, even without the fanfare and applause. She must build, she must carry, she must support, and she must help.

Woman, know thyself. Woman, know who you are and whose you are. Woman, know your worth and value. Never be out of character. Out of the mouth of a good, strong and wise woman to her son whom she raised to be a king, asks the question, “Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies…” and she proceeded to relate what that woman looks like (Proverbs 31: 10-31). Two things are very striking here and it is that although we do not know much of her son, he was a king, and she named him Limuel meaning ‘belonging to God’ in the Hebrew language. She raised her family on the Word of God with a godly heart and secondly, she gave him the keys to identifying that wise woman, when she taught him that the woman’s works shall praise her in the gates (vs. 31b).

The weight of a woman is humongous, but it is rewarding when she helps after God’s heart. I encourage every woman to recognize her God-given mandate wherever she is assigned and to whom she is assigned and to run with it virtuously and wisely because this is who she is.

Blessings!

Sunday, October 13 2024

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When we speak of GROWTH, we are embracing progressive development.  We look for progressive development in every area of our lives. Whether it is in our children, our jobs, our businesses, or our relationships, we become very concerned when there is no progressive development, when there is no Growth. So, it is with the growth of the Church.

As the Church, we are the body of Jesus Christ who is our Head. Luke 2:52 tells us clearly that Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God the Father and mankind. It therefore behooves us as His body to grow and to increase wholly. Jesus requires us to Grow. God wants us, His Church to prosper, to increase materially and outwardly, but most importantly He wants us to Grow from within.

The Apostle Paul implores us to present our bodies as living sacrifices unto God which is our reasonable service, and not to be confirmed to this world but be transformed by the renewing of our minds so that we may prove what is that good and acceptable, and perfect will of God (Romans 12:1-2). As the Church, we must present our bodies, our temples to God and have our minds renewed. This is clearly a growth process from within.

As we meditate on this very foundational text, it speaks of a sacrifice we must make to set ourselves apart from not only the world, but from our old self. 2 Corinthians 5:17 tells us “… if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.” So, we must strive to be more like Christ, not more like our old selves, which were tarnished and had to be washed in the blood of Jesus. We put Christ to open shame and crucify Him afresh when we resort to our old self or become stagnant in our spiritual growth.

God wants to change us from the inside out. As a Growing Church, we must be ever-evolving, updating in our minds and hearts. Renewal means to: make like new, restore to freshness, vigor, or perfection; regenerate, revive, rebuild, etc. These are the things God wants to see happening in and through us as His Church.

HOW DOES THE CHURCH GROW WITHIN?

The Apostle Paul gives us a pivotal strategy in 2 Timothy 2:15 when he said, “Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that need[s] not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the Word of Truth.” Don’t just read the Word of God like a history book, but sit and study it, cross-referencing text to build your faith, strengthen your decision to stay in Christ, and to Grow in every area of your life which starts with the renewing of the mind. Jesus Himself tells us in John 15:3, “Now ye are clean through the Word which I have spoken unto you.’ The Word is that water that cleanses our minds as we read it; it is that light that illumines the dark areas of our minds; and it is that sword that pierces asunder every ugly and stubborn thought that tries to contaminate the pure flow of good and healthy thinking in our minds.

THE CHURCH IS RESPONSIBLE FOR HER GROWTH

As the Church, we are responsible and accountable for our growth in Christ. We are responsible and accountable for feeding both our flesh and spirit man, it is not anyone else’s responsibility to feed us. This means that our reading of the Word of God should not be confined to only when we gather for worship. We need to read the Word for ourselves on a daily basis, so that we can work and apply it to our lives and watch God perform it in us. Reading the Word daily builds our faith in Christ whom we serve. It builds our spirit, and it kills our flesh both at the same time. This is how we feed both spirit and flesh. The spirit is fed, and the flesh is starved. The more we read the Word, our flesh dies daily and the Christlikeness in us shines so bright that we truly become the Light of our world.

Let me leave you with a Word to ponder. “For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit (the Word) shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting” (Galatians 6:8).

Thursday, October 03 2024