The Weight Of A Woman
Looking back at the creation of God in all of His wisdom, He has made only two species of human beings and that is the man and the woman. God created the woman because He didn’t want the man to be alone. God saw the incompleteness of the man and therefore created her with a purpose. Her creation was intentional. God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him (Genesis 2:18 KJV). So she is his help, suitable, complementary, sufficient, his other half, etc. for him.
As a help to her husband, she becomes a wife, mother, confidant, cook, housekeeper, and if she goes out to work, financial supporter, and the list goes on. When we speak of the word “weight,” we are reminded of responsibility, importance, influence, and strength. The woman carries the weight of everyone in her life. Helping is an innate quality of the woman. The numerous hats she wears go unnoticed because she wears them effortlessly, willingly, and joyfully.
However, time has shown that a woman can be wise and/or foolish. The book of Proverbs tells us, “Every wise woman buildeth her house: But the foolish plucketh it down with her hands (Proverbs 14:1). So this woman whose purpose is to help, to help build, help create, help support, and help uphold, can actually do so but on the other hand tear it all down. This woman, among all things, is both passionate and compulsive and this is where the wisdom and folly of her comes into play. Depending on her compulsion she can bring out the king in her husband and sons, the queen in her daughters, and the beautiful strength in herself. On the other hand, that same woman can cause a man to not speak or lift his head in his own house, and her sons and daughters to desire to be elsewhere.
A woman whether she bore a child or not carries a lot of weight and according to the scriptures she builds her house. Even though the man may have the blueprint and may have built the foundation, of what the house should look like, how his wife and kids may look, it is the woman who sets the atmosphere and tone for the home and even the church. She carries the brick for whatever the man is building. The brick is the feeding, the clothing, the rearing of the children, bringing things together one after the other, so that the man’s vision is seen clearly. She carries on without complaining exhibiting her power, her capacity or ability to direct or influence the behaviors of others or the course of events to bring it all to fruition.
The wise woman is able to effortlessly build because she is building on the Word of God, where comes her strength. She gives the godly design of her out of the Word of God, to come to light and be manifested in and through her. Her beauty is reflected in her home, church, community, marketplace, and what and wherever she touches.
The woman becomes foolish when she steps out of character and wields weapons of destruction through her words, attitudes, and behavior as a whole. But God wants us to be wise even in the face of adverse conditions and experiences. God wants us to build and not tear down; to lift up and not to trample under. That’s the weight of a woman, to just be there with the bricks to see things through and flourish, even without the fanfare and applause. She must build, she must carry, she must support, and she must help.
Woman, know thyself. Woman, know who you are and whose you are. Woman, know your worth and value. Never be out of character. Out of the mouth of a good, strong and wise woman to her son whom she raised to be a king, asks the question, “Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies…” and she proceeded to relate what that woman looks like (Proverbs 31: 10-31). Two things are very striking here and it is that although we do not know much of her son, he was a king, and she named him Limuel meaning ‘belonging to God’ in the Hebrew language. She raised her family on the Word of God with a godly heart and secondly, she gave him the keys to identifying that wise woman, when she taught him that the woman’s works shall praise her in the gates (vs. 31b).
The weight of a woman is humongous, but it is rewarding when she helps after God’s heart. I encourage every woman to recognize her God-given mandate wherever she is assigned and to whom she is assigned and to run with it virtuously and wisely because this is who she is.
Blessings!
